Seth Barnes blogged this today; if you have not read Adam’s Return by Richard Rohr – I strongly recommend you do; both women and men; my daughters know who they want to marry and my sons are learning about initiation.
Gary Black and his family have been on a fascinating journey these past three years. At some point, I hope that he’ll be able to share it with you. He’s learned some great lessons (helped along the way by Richard Rohr) along the way that have cost a lot. We all get to learn these, or get bloodied and bruised because we couldn’t learn them.
1. Life is hard
Being a Christian is not supposed to be easy all the time. We are going to suffer, get hurt, fall down. All great spirituality is about what we do with our pain. Embracing pain and learning from it will make you conscious, awake, and alert. God comes in and wounds our wounds and then starts to heal them…and we should embrace it, not turn and run the other direction when things are hard.
2. You’re not that important
Either we are made by another or self-made, but all of us are transformed by people that are already transformed, and we can’t do something until we see other people do it. Though our souls need meaning as much as our bodies need food, we can’t give meaning.
3. It’s not about you
Life is not about you but you are about life. You are about a universal and eternal pattern, and you don’t have to figure it all out. We should be satisfied with being a part and only a part of the bigger picture.
4. You are not in control
You just get to BE, even if you can’t wrap head around it. Everybody tells you to take control of your life and it sounds so godly and spiritual, but our bodies, souls, and especially our failures teach us that we are not in control. All God wants is the “yes” in our spirit – allow ourselves to be used despite the evidence against us. When we realize we’re not in control we begin to care about other stuff, and become part of the huge mystery that helps change the world.
5. You are going to die
The most courageous thing you’ll ever do is accept that you’re just yourself, but we must die to self-image and small egos in order to become our real selves.
If these themes seem to hit you where it counts and you’d like to dive deeper in exploring them, I recommend reading Max Lucado’s It’s Not About Me.
