"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us."  Joseph Campbell

My life is about the one.

Growing up in a religious environment; always striving, trying to please and achieve, it took a long time to get there… but, at almost 42 it is beginning to make sense…

The spirit of religion is a dangerous and deceptive thing. For many of us that grew up in the Church we don’t even realize how religious we really are. For some it manifests in overachieving; afraid to fail so we put unrealistic expectations on ourselves, our marriage, our kids and the people around us.

For others it’s being afraid of success; the responsibility if I do achieve is too much! I will never maintain and when people find out who I really am… and shame rules our life.

These days I have surrounded myself with mostly 50 and 60 year olds… most of my friends in their 50’s are all saying the same thing; life is about how to please your wife – literally stopping and asking her, “What do you want”? and actually doing it! They are also all about the one.

Building a successful business or big ministry makes them ill. They have seen enough “Life” made a lot of plans and goals that didn’t turn out how they thought. Or, maybe they have turned out just like they thought and it still wasn’t enough… and now life is much simpler.

How do I make the people around me better and how do I serve the “one” day-by-day that know one else will serve?